Although I certainly don’t post all of my personal business here on FB, I do intentionally work to be emotionally open and transparent. Not because I want the attention (I don’t, and not really sure I get extra attention anyway) but because I’ve spent much of my life feeling like “the only one.” Feeling alone in my thoughts and emotions and experiences. Time has shown me that more often than not, none of us are the only one, it’s just that no one is talking about what they’re really going through, so we each think that our struggles are too much to share.
That’s not true.
I’m not say that everyone’s experience is not unique or complex. My point is that in sharing more of my own experiences, in trying to be more transparent, I can hopefully provide some comfort and connectedness to others. It’s my way of saying, “Hey, it’s not just you. I see you. I feel you. It’s okay to feel what you feel. We’re all human and we all go through it in our own way.”
Hopefully that’s what people get from me. If nothing else, maybe you’re just entertained by me. That works too, because I’d rather make you laugh than make you cry.
And shoot, sometimes I need to share for me. I’ve had to learn that it’s okay to ask for help (it’s excruciatingly difficult), to reveal and release (and re-release, and release yet again) my heart ache and soul pain. That’s part of my growth too.
Anyway, my point is, I hope my openness does something to aid someone else’s. That acknowledging both my light and my darkness helps others accept their own duality. And that there’s healing for both of us in the process. Because life is beautiful, but it’s also heavy. Let’s try to share the burden when we need to.